This post is part of the 31 Days to Flourish in Motherhood series. Click here for the whole list!
Like most of the posts this series, today’s will be quite objective, and I’m certain that many of you will not identify with me at all! That’s okay. Because my flourishing doesn’t look the same as yours. Let’s not allow it to come between us.
So……… yeah. I hate yoga pants. I don’t find them comfortable unless I am actually doing yoga. (And then they are lovely.) I feel the same way about sweats. I feel at home in jeans. And today, I want to talk about self-care, and see… getting dressed starts my day. Staying in my pajamas doesn’t make me feel warm and fuzzy. It makes me feel like I’m having a sick day. A few months ago, I actually decided that the boys and I would stay home, do special activities together, and wear our pajamas all day… by 4 p.m., I had to finally let myself get dressed. I just couldn’t handle it! Once I had put on “real” clothes, I was much more relaxed and able to enjoy our day. (I know. I’m really weird. I have no idea why I am incapable of enjoying sweat pants.)
Today is confession day… here are five more things about my own personal self-care routine that I’m pretty sure make me a little bit weird.
- Makeup. Every day.
There were maybe two days in the past year that I didn’t wear makeup (not counting a couple of days when I was so sick that I barely left my bed). It doesn’t matter if I’m not going anywhere; I feel SO much more like myself when I do my face.
- I’ve finally learned to do my hair.
This does not mean I’ve gotten all Pinterest-y and am performing intricate works of origami (or even simple French braids) on my hair. It means that I started using salon shampoo (hello, Beauty Brands annual summer liter sale!) and increased my style options from “flat-ironed or curled” to … well, I can quickly think of at least eight styles in my arsenal. I do think that having healthy hair has contributed greatly to my desire to do things with my hair. It’s fun to have options! I’ve heard some people say, “I’m doing all these cool things with my hair; I feel like such a grownup!” Obviously these people aren’t considering the five-year-old tendency to lovingly fawn over an American Girl doll’s hair. But I suppose it is kind of an adult thing, the capability to manipulate one’s hair into more than two styles.
- I love love love having my nails done.
Haha, this isn’t a grownup thing, either, at least not right now, because my nails look like candy corn! But honestly… there’s something about polished fingernails that makes me feel more polished. I discovered Jamberry last year — nope, I don’t sell it, and I’m not having a party. I just adore the designs and how long they last and the fact that getting interrupted during application carries zero risk of ruining my manicure. It’s a much easier way than nail polish to enjoy long-lasting fancy nails.
- Sometimes I wear cute clothes.
Make no mistake: I do not claim to be a fashionista. But this summer, I decided to give Stitch Fix a shot. I’m really glad I did! I was impressed with the level of attention given to the extensive profile I filled out, and while I did end up keeping the majority of the items from the two Fixes I ordered, the biggest advantage of the service for me was that it opened my eyes to new and different clothing styles. I loved some pieces that I wouldn’t have given a second glance in-store. As a result, I’m starting to not detest clothes shopping like I used to. I’m more willing to try pieces on before rejecting them off the rack. I’m getting a sense for what makes me look — and feel! — like my best me. (If you decide to check it out, please use my Stitch Fix referral link. I’ll get some credit, at no cost to you!)
I also appreciate that Husband is an excellent co-shopper. Pre-kids, he’d go shopping with me and help me pick out clothes. These days, I bring home a big pile to try on while he waits patiently in between wardrobe changes so he can help me decide what to keep and what to return. I do much less second-guessing that way.
- Ooh, shiny!
Jewelry is a fairly recent addition for me. I’ve worn hoop earrings on a daily basis for as long as I can remember, but my sister started selling Paparazzi jewelry this year — every piece is only $5! — and very on-trend. So I bought a few pieces to support her business and ended up discovering that I really like bracelets. Like everything else listed above, throwing on a few pieces of jewelry makes me feel more armed to deal with whatever the day holds for me.
In case you’re thinking that I must waste a lot of time on all this… here’s a before-and-after from a couple weeks ago. We were headed out to library storytime, and I was pushing the clock. I left the boys downstairs eating breakfast (seriously, how are they so slow????) and ran upstairs to get ready. I snapped a selfie of me with a bare face and clean-but-disheveled hair (I shower at night)… and then, 14 minutes later, I was ready to go.
All this could be misconstrued for vanity, so I want to make it clear that I don’t do all this so people will think I look put-together, or to impress those around me. I have learned what makes me feel like me, and I try to make that happen. So here’s the deal: if you’re more comfortable living in yoga pants with a bare face, then keep rocking it, sister. I’m even a little jealous. I sometimes wish that were my style. But it isn’t. And I’ve decided to own that. Part of starting MY day is doing my hair and makeup and putting on shoes. Even if they’re just tennis shoes… and they usually are.
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